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Too much willpower leads to obsession or anorexia. I have an anorexic niece,
over 6 feet tall and wearing British dress size 8 US size 6 I think that 
is.
I don't think that's good. I called in to visit my brother,her father and
when I had a cup of coffee, she told me that I should change my brand of
artificial sweeteners the one I use has 1 calorie per pill. Some time ago
she questioned why I was eating rice cakes with a non starvation topping 
and
found it difficult to take in that I simply like rice cakes, so what if 
it
was buttered?
Hana
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Diane Sheats" <Diane_Design@...>
To: <>
Sent: Tuesday, October 19, 2004 12:25 AM
Subject: Re: [nosdiet] Re: Two lbs and holding/ Debs rant about home
challenges....


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> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Deborah B. Feder" <deborahfederlmt@...>
> > I believe that Willpower basically is the Force that allows us 
to
achieve
> > our Destiny and is extremely important, however discipline is 
more
> > reliable and you need both.
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> Hmm! Well, my statement was just based on a different definition of
> willpower. In a dieting context, "willpower" has always been the 
word
used
> to describe one's ability to say NO to every food that ISN'T on THE 
DIET,
> for a period of hours, days, weeks or months...however long one can
continue
> holding on and denying one's desires. If your willpower is strong or 
your
> desires are weak, any diet may work. However, most of us with a weight
> problem haven't been helped by diets because they depend mainly on
willpower
> and willpower is like walking a tightrope. One quote that has stuck in 
my
> head for years: "Willpower is sitting in an ice cream parlor with 
your
> friends, drinking black coffee while everyone else eats ice cream.
> Discipline is have a small dish of ice cream and later eating less 
or
doing
> a bit more exercise to balance out the effect of the ice cream."
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> A bit less exotic than Eastern Philosophy 101, but that is my
understanding.
> =)
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> >....That is going on the assumption that we are dealing with a 
rational
> >person...And as exaggerated as this sounds my mom will
> never "approve" of anything common sense from me and in general tries 
to
> keep me as miserable as she is..This is the kind of "love" she got as 
a
kid,
> and she knows no other brand...
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> So sorry to hear about that! I do believe you, because I've known 
people
> like this--but fortunately I'm not related to any of them. I think I 
was
> assuming that your mom was more or less similar to my mom or perhaps 
my
> grandmothers. Oops, wrong assumption! Well, don't give up, and
> (unsolicited advice) do try pitying her when all else fails. I've
> discovered that helps with some truly impossible people! =)
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> Diane
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