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I am certainly guilty of the black and white approach to dieting or the all or 
nothing approach. I have discovered that if I am not ON A DIET, I eat all of those 
foods that are not traditionally allowed on said diet and NONE of the foods allowed 
on the diet. In other words, if I am not following a particular diet, I would never 
think of having a salad for lunch. Instead, I will have a huge sandwich, chips, 
cookie.... I am 47 years old and have spent most of my adult life either on a diet or 
on a binge. I gain and lose the same 20-30 pounds every year. Definitely not healthy 
and very frustrating. I did maintain a weight loss for about a year following low 
carb -- but then I met my fiance and thought I could just eat anything and everything 
and for the last 3 years have been back on the diet yo-yo. 

I discovered NoS last summer and have yet to get 21 days slashed off. My black & 
white approach means I am either following the NoS rules (which are not difficult, 
really) or I am eating out of control. This past week I realized that even if I am 
not ON NoS, I can still have a NoS day as I work my way back. One day is better than 
no days. So, I have realized this but have yet to put it into practice. I think I 
will do that this week. 

I really do wish it were as simple as eating 3 meals a day but there is a lot of 
baggage that needs to be cleared out. 

Mary

Debbie Feder <deborahfederlmt@...> wrote:


--- In , "Valerie Akers" <valakers@m...> 
wrote:
> I'm so used to a black and white, all or nothing approach, that I 

> have difficulty with what I perceive as "half-measures" (which we 

all know "avail us nothing" -- thanks a lot AA/Big Book). 
...Oops another post, I just couldn't resist here, sorry for 
cluttering the inboxes I promise this is my last one until many more 
hours pass...I guess I'm just feeling the Spririt today :)LOL

Valerie. If we were to take a poll of this group, and I am 
suggesting that you all chime in here, hint hint, I would venture a 
guess that your black and white view of "things" in general, is a 

common trait amongst many others of us.. I am that way, and I'm 
slowly trying to see the "grey" in life... It's a very unproductive 

way of thinking, as you mentioned, and can be downright 
detrimental...The reason is, I feel, that this thinking comes from a 
place of Judgement...and in terms of diet, when you "fall off the 

horse" instead of saying "oops I hurt my heinie a little, now I will 

just get back on and try some more" the thought processes usually 

lead to a very vicious cycle of "I failed, this stinks, I stink, why 

bother, eat more because I stink, gain more weight, feel 
stinkier"...you get the idea..
As Reinhard says in the Mainpage for NoS "Zero percent of 100 is 
still zero" something is infinitely better than not trying at all.



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